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Hi, I'm Lauren!
(or rdm, if you prefer the shorter name with the longer story)

I'm 23, a university student and a self-confessed music nerd.

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lgbtlaughs:

lgbtqblogs:

Mother delivers moving speech defending trans daughter

Debi Jackson, who is the mother of 6-year-old trans girl AJ, was speaking at the Unity Temple on the Plaza in Kansas City.

Contains: Some humour (hence the reblog here), discussion of genitals, therapy, and concepts of dyphoria and transphobia by a third party. The speaker uses correct pronouns (she/her/hers) throughout, even when referring to the time when she didn’t understand what being transgender meant/when she thought her daughter was a boy.


posted 5 days ago with 1,983 notes - via into-the-weeds © lgbtqblogs

gaywrites:

We went to the party, and, as I figured, some of the guests laughed and made comments. One said to me, “Do you think this is funny? There are kids here. You want them to see this?” Another said, “You want him to be gay?”  

And I stayed calm. And I explained to them the best I could that there is no correlation between kids cross-dressing and being gay. And if he is gay, it’s not because of anything I did. It’s because he’s gay. And maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him. And some understood. And some, trapped by religion or ignorance, gave us the stank face. 

Plenty of people are supportive. They’ll see my kids — Sydney with her long dirty blonde hair, and Asher with his short dark hair, and say, “I love your daughter’s pixie cut.” When I tell them he’s my son, they smile and say, “I love it.” They also apologize for confusing his gender, but I tell them, “Don’t apologize. He’s in a purple dress with sparkly shoes. How would you know?” I know there are parents who get worked up when you confuse their kids’ gender, but I’m not one of them.

I get home before my wife most nights, so I was taking the kids out to walk our dog. They were dressing up in different outfits, my daughter treating Asher like her doll, as she tried various dresses, shoes, and headbands on him. And then Sydney told me she wanted me to wear a dress, too — “Oh my god, it will be so funny.”

I said, “No,” but she kept begging. I said, “People will laugh at me.” She said, “If they do, I’ll tell them to go away.” And I couldn’t argue with that, as I squeezed myself into Carrie’s most flexible dress. We walked the dog on our block, and the pleasure my kids took in seeing their dad go out of his comfort zone trumped the humiliation I felt.

Carrie pulled up to the house, and I saw her slacked jaw from the end of the street. She laughed. She took a picture. And she told me I better not rip her dress. And then we all went for a pizza.


(My Son Wears Dresses And That’s OK With Me | Seth Menachem for xoJane)

gaywrites:

We went to the party, and, as I figured, some of the guests laughed and made comments. One said to me, “Do you think this is funny? There are kids here. You want them to see this?” Another said, “You want him to be gay?”  
And I stayed calm. And I explained to them the best I could that there is no correlation between kids cross-dressing and being gay. And if he is gay, it’s not because of anything I did. It’s because he’s gay. And maybe it’s a stage. And maybe it’s not. But either way, I don’t want him to ever feel like he wasn’t able to express himself because his parents didn’t support him. And some understood. And some, trapped by religion or ignorance, gave us the stank face. 
Plenty of people are supportive. They’ll see my kids — Sydney with her long dirty blonde hair, and Asher with his short dark hair, and say, “I love your daughter’s pixie cut.” When I tell them he’s my son, they smile and say, “I love it.” They also apologize for confusing his gender, but I tell them, “Don’t apologize. He’s in a purple dress with sparkly shoes. How would you know?” I know there are parents who get worked up when you confuse their kids’ gender, but I’m not one of them.
I get home before my wife most nights, so I was taking the kids out to walk our dog. They were dressing up in different outfits, my daughter treating Asher like her doll, as she tried various dresses, shoes, and headbands on him. And then Sydney told me she wanted me to wear a dress, too — “Oh my god, it will be so funny.”
I said, “No,” but she kept begging. I said, “People will laugh at me.” She said, “If they do, I’ll tell them to go away.” And I couldn’t argue with that, as I squeezed myself into Carrie’s most flexible dress. We walked the dog on our block, and the pleasure my kids took in seeing their dad go out of his comfort zone trumped the humiliation I felt.
Carrie pulled up to the house, and I saw her slacked jaw from the end of the street. She laughed. She took a picture. And she told me I better not rip her dress. And then we all went for a pizza.
(My Son Wears Dresses And That’s OK With Me | Seth Menachem for xoJane)

posted 1 week ago with 17,936 notes - via gaywrites

Anonymous whispered:
Do you have any recommendations for queer movies that end happily?

fuckyeahfeminists:

ladysaviours:

mightfindmevaluable:

hatteress:

+ various additions:

hatteress:

Oh man, NOT ENOUGH.

I can rec these few that I’ve seen personally:

Imagine Me and You - LENA HEEEEAAADDDDEEEYYY

Guys and Balls - German comedy about a dude who puts together a gay football team to take on his hometown’s homophobic counterpart.

The Gymnast - It’s not a traditional “happy ever after” but it ends optimistically. Also AERIAL SILKS.

Shelter - I watched this with two girlfriends and we spent the entire movie fangirl flailing around in our PJs.

I Don’t Want to Go Back Alone (Portuguese: Eu Não Quero Voltar Sozinho) (on youtube here) - WATCH THIS IMMEDIATELY. It’s only about 20 minutes long but it’s disgustingly beautiful. They’re also filming a feature length version right now.

Hedwig and the Angry Inch - it’s a MUSICAL. A beautiful, beautiful musical!

The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert - If you haven’t seen this you need to look at your life and your choices.

Kinky Boots - Less sexuality, more gender identity and performance. I heart it so much.

And these two are next on my list (somebody come at me if I’m wrong about the happy ending thing):

Saving FaceA Chinese-American lesbian and her traditionalist mother are reluctant to go public with secret loves that clash against cultural expectations.

I love you Phillip MorrisA cop turns con man once he comes out of the closet. Once imprisoned, he meets the second love of his life, whom he’ll stop at nothing to be with. (EDIT: I have been told this does not end happily - DAMMIT!)

If anyone has any other additions to add to this list, PLEASE DO. I need ALL of the happy ending queer movies!

The Birdcage - I’ve seen this and it’s amazing. I’m offended with myself that I forgot to include it in my original list.

But I’m a Cheerleader - Ditto to the above

Mambo italianoThe son of Italian immigrants to Canada struggles to find the best way to reveal to his parents that he’s gay. (recced by anon)

Bedrooms and HallwaysAt the suggestion of a straight friend, gay man Leo joins a men’s group, where he causes some upsets by declaring his attraction to one of its members. (recced by calliotrope)

In and OutA midwestern teacher questions his sexuality after a former student makes a comment about him at the Academy Awards. (recced by teacakemix)

Were the World Mine - A bullied and demoralized gay student at an all-boys school uses a magical flower derived from Shakespeare’s “A Midsummer Night’s Dream’ to turn many in his community gay, including a comely rugby player for himself. (recced by @starwilson)

RomeosA drama centered on the relationship between a young man and a transsexual who is transitioning from female to male. (recced by waresy)

Touch of Pink A gay Canadian living in London has his perfectly crafted life upset when his devoutly Muslim mother comes to visit. (recced by @deviousness-carter)

WeekendAfter a drunken house party with his straight mates, Russell heads out to a gay club. Just before closing time he picks up Glen but what’s expected to be just a one-night stand becomes something else, something special. (recced by @haleswallows - “the ending isn’t an “happily ever after” but is good none-the-less" )

I’d like to throw:

D.E.B.S -Spies and Criminals! Handcuffs! Fake Kidnappings! The movie also contains the line: “I didn’t even want to be a criminal I wanted to be a pirate!” Also it is wonderful and ends happily ever after. Honestly one of my favorite movies ever. Ignore the IMDB rating this movie is wonderful.

and

Make the Yuletide Gay About coming out to your family and make sense of the person you were and the person you are now. There are bunk beds and candy canes and Filthy jokes and a dad character who is stoned this entire film and joy to watch. The family stuff ends happily, the central gay male couple ends happily,  you will end this movie feeling happy.

Maurice - a gay man in the Edwardian era struggles to come to terms with his sexuality.

Big Eden - after moving home to care for his ailing grandfather, a man finds love with the local storeowner (thanks to the ENTIRE TOWN’S matchmaking schemes.)

Private Romeo - Romeo and Juliet at all all-male military school. (Yes, it has a happy ending!)

Tipping the Velvet - a Victorian-era lesbian travels through London’s gay subculture.

Fire - a relationship begins between the a shopkeeper’s young wife and her older sister-in-law.

yesss


posted 4 weeks ago with 16,446 notes - via thetimesinbetween © hatteress

isallornothingthebestwecando:

gaywrites:

Bisexual Erasure Pt. 3: Sometimes, I feel like I’m not good enough for the queer community because I’m bisexual and not a lesbian. Here’s why. 

I wish I had these videos years ago. So amazing to hear someone talk about things I’ve always felt but never been able to put into words. Makes me feel a lot less alone.


posted 1 month ago with 987 notes - via bemusedlybespectacled © gaywrites

chlorifica:

My First Year as a Woman, by Against Me!’s Laura Jane Grace


posted 1 month ago with 32,621 notes - via thetimesinbetween © chlorifica

thetimesinbetween:

yourenotaloneinthis:

United Nations Launches Stunning Gay Equality Bollywood Campaign

:)))


posted 1 month ago with 425 notes - via thetimesinbetween © yourenotaloneinthis

bruisingknees:

WOW, I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS BOL.COM (DUTCH WEBSTORE) COMMERCIAL AND THEIR A+ INCLUDING OF TRANS WOMEN, YES. 

"Bol.com has everything for women who are going out. (Oh, nice do!) But also for women who’ve been dumped (And that’s a nice sundae.) For women who are totally ready, and for women who are totally done (yeah, we also sell hammocks!) Everything for experienced women (a candle for the ambiance!) And for women who are just getting started.”


posted 1 month ago with 5,138 notes - via lettersfromtitan © bruisingknees

and-todays-obsession-is:

Advantages to dating an asexual

  • you know we aren’t in it for your body
  • we seriously like you for your personality
  • cuddling
  • minimal worry about cheating
  • we’re super lovable
  • we like to just hang out with you
  • no sexual tension to deal with
  • we’re basically a super-friend

posted 2 months ago with 1,962 notes - via edenwolfie © and-todays-obsession-is

"My favorite definition for bisexuality so far is the one popularized by (the wonderful) bisexual activist Robyn Ochs. Ochs says, “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted—romantically and/or sexually—to people of more than one sex, and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”

This is by far the broadest and most enabling definition of bisexuality that I’ve found to date. Its strength is in the way it enables anyone who wants to identify as bisexual to do so. (In other words, it reassures people.)

In a world in which bisexuality is usually very narrowly defined, many people who experience bisexual desire, and want to identify as bi, often feel afraid to start (or keep) identifying as such, as they feel as though they “don’t qualify.” The role that an enabling definition for bisexuality can fulfill to counter these feelings of internalized biphobia is invaluable—and I feel that Ochs’s definition does just that. It reassures people that they are “allowed” to identify as bisexual if they wish to do so."
Shiri Eisner, from her 2013 Book ”Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution (p. 21-22)


posted 2 months ago with 17,956 notes - via scottinpanties © bisexualmind

I’m sure this is already on tumblr but I haven’t seen a post and I need it on my blog. It’s just so adorable and lovely.


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