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Hi, I'm Lauren!
(or rdm, if you prefer the shorter name with the longer story)

I'm 23, a university student and a self-confessed music nerd.

Here you'll find Glee, Disney, Sherlock, fic, musicals, pretty people, pretty things and my ramblings.
Oh and I have a tendency to overshare. Don't say I didn't warn you.



The difference between bisexuality and pansexuality: a powerpoint guide. 


I dig it. For me, a big part of why I identify as bi rather than pan is because my attraction to people is emphatically not gender-blind or “I fall for the person, not the gender.” Gender is a huge part of why I’m attracted to particular people…I just happen to be attracted to multiple genders!

And honestly, the other reason bi is a better label for me is that as a parish minister, I spend an inordinately large amount of time coming out to people who are 65+. Bisexuality is a marginally more accessible terminology for them than pansexuality, in general, and that matters to me.  

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Jenny Farrell (Katherine Heigl) has led an openly gay life - except with her conventional family. When she finally decides to start a family and marry the woman they thought was just her roommate, the small, safe world the Farrell’s inhabited changes forever. They are left with a simple and difficult choice - either change with it or drown. 

Last November, MM Productions completed principal photography on the film “Jenny’s Wedding” and they are currently in post production. 

Made independently, this film is the kind of movie the studios used to make all the time. It is about real people, the problems they face, and the personal courage it takes to resolve them. It is also about transformation and love.

Both moving and funny, it has an important message to send, and our goal is to ensure it reaches a wide audience.

HELP the filmmaker’s of ‘Jenny’s Wedding’

Donate here: GOOD CAUSE

This is all I’ve ever wanted. KATHERINE.

Fuuuck people this only has 11 HOURS left and they still need 50k. 

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Watch Honey Maid’s awesome answer about the backlash they received 

so powerful

This is beautiful and perfect and EXACTLY as the world should be.

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Ellen Page comes out -  HRCF’S Time to Thrive Conference 

Such amazing words.

Guys—she is leading up to it for five full minutes, getting more and more nervous. It’s kind of heartbreaking to watch. And then at 5:03, she starts. Her reaction after she gets out those three little words—“I am gay”—is all you need to know about how hard this was for her. 

This is a woman who has given countless speeches, who has always stood up for justice, equality, feminism and controversial movements; a woman who has full support of her family and friends; and she was still terrified to come out. This is an example of why this is such a big deal, and why visibility matters.

Okay, I finally watched the video. Hard to watch for me. It really brought me back to my own coming out as bi a little less than a year ago, also in a relatively dramatic, “all at once” kind of way (though of course not as a celebrity!).

The obvious terror before she says it is really clear, yes. But then, friends. THEN. The look on her face after she says “I am gay.” I just….God. I remember that feeling so well. It felt so good. It still feels so good. I couldn’t know until I finally took that step. But God, so worth it for me. So worth all the awkwardness and fallout and everything that followed. So worth it for that feeling of freedom—of finally, finally being free.

I know everyone is in a different, unique situation and on their own journey, and I know coming out is an intensely personal decision. And I don’t for one minute want to suggest that anyone should come out before they feel safe and ready to do it.

BUT. I won’t apologize for the fact that I want that feeling of freedom, and authenticity, and integrity—not integrity as in “honorable” but as in the other, less-metaphorical sense of the word, as in being whole, being present with one’s whole self—for everyone who is still deprived of it. I want every person to know that feeling. I want a world where it is safe and possible for every person to know that feeling. Because it feels so good. And because by setting ourselves free we set others free. And we repair our broken world one piece at a time.

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"It is hard for bi people to come out. One cannot casually reference a current or past girlfriend or boyfriend, or current interest, and expect people to reach the correct conclusion. I find I must say bisexual if people are to actually understand my sexual orientation (and Queer if they are to understand my political positioning within the LGBT community). And even then there are no guarantees; it can still be heard as lesbian in some weird Bermuda Triangle of Bi Invisibility.

I have long cultivated the practice of using gender neutral language to talk about my partner. I think of it as a way of being subtly out as a bi person as well as articulating a kind of genderqueer politics; it comes from my determination that gender should not bound my relationships. And because I am in an opposite-gender (there’s that troubling binary again) relationship, omitting pronouns is an important way for me to resist heterosexual privilege. Assumptions follow from gender revelations, and only once has someone followed a pronoun revelation by asking whether my partner is cis or trans. Among people who pick up on my gender neutral language, some wrongly assume I am a lesbian trying to cover a same-sex relationship. Again I find am in need of the bi label to convey the truth of who I am.

It’s not that gender doesn’t matter – it matters immensely – but for bi people, it does not limit. I mean to resist others placing limitations on what my relationship can or must be based on gender. I like to think that is the real meaning of Galatians 3:28 (“there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female…”) – not that we become oblivious to gender, abandon our identities, or ignore and forget relationships of oppression, but that being one in Christ would mean we act to end injustice, and free ourselves from the limitations of the binary. To do this work, we must take the risks of clearly claiming who we are, in word as well as deed."
Gorgeous post by Donna Riley, a bisexual Presbyterian. (via goneawayawhile)

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Me Am What Me Am—The Cookie Monster

Listen to this but interpret it as bisexuals defending their positions of liking more than one gender because yes.

I’m dying, Sesame Street has been having to do official media releases about this for years, it’s a fantastic metaphor for having to come out multiple times as a bisexual and the media panic over it.

In a Season 43 episode, Cookie Monster is offered vegetables to eat while waiting for a batch of cookies to finish baking. At every instance, Mario Lopez, appearing as a news reporter, claims that Cookie has become the Veggie Monster. Cookie sings “Me Am What Me Am" to explain that he is still Cookie Monster, even though he does love to occasionally eat vegetables. However, after Cookie eats part of the Sesame Street lamppost, Lopez comes back to report that Cookie is now "The Lamppost Monster."

I can’t breathe…


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At age thirteen, my mom knew I wasn’t straight
She didn’t understand, but she had so much to say
She sat me on the couch, looked me straight in my face
And said you’ll burn in hell or probably die of AIDS
It’s funny now, but at thirteen it was pain
To be almost sure of who you are and have it ripped away
And I’m sorry if it’s too real for some of you to fathom
But hate for who you love is not exactly what you’d imagine
And I guess it was disastrous
Because everything that happened afterwards was just madness
Locked away for two years to keep me on the inside
Because she’d rather see a part of me die than me thrive
And it’s tougher when it’s something you can’t deny
And ignorance teaches us it’s something you decide
You’re driven by your choices, an optical illusion
Here’s to understanding it’s not always confusion

And I can’t change
Even if I tried, even if I wanted to
And I can’t change
Even if I tried, even if I wanted to
My love, my love, my love
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm
She keeps me warm

I’ve walked the halls of my school
And I’ve seen kids hide behind walls and footballs and things like pride
I’ve seen innocent children suffer beneath bruises
Suffer beneath every single hand that chooses ignorance
Fuck your religion
Fuck constitutions
Fuck superstitions
There are no lakes of fire; they’re here on earth
And the only thing to do is put love first

And so I stand for the boy who died by his hand
To the sound of his father screaming “Woman loves man”
"This is Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve"
And I stand for the girl with the cuts up her sleeve
And the heart in her hand and a chip on her shoulder
And I stand for it all until ignorance is over
This is for you, for knowing who you are
For never letting your magic outside of your heart
Be you, be brave, and understand that things do change
I accept you for you when I don’t understand
And I love you for you because this is who I am
I accepted you for you when I didn’t understand
Now love me for me ‘cause this is who I am


Here’s a message to the people who just don’t get it:
Love is love
There is no difference
Not a medication to fix it
There is no prescription
No rehab to visit
It is not an addiction
It’s love and it’s selfless
It’s yours and everybody else’s
So don’t badger and abuse the solemnly defenseless
See us as yourself
There’s no equality in difference
Until we all get it, we’ll be drowning in the same blood
Despite orientation, we all feel the same love
We’ll be drowning in the same blood
Despite orientation, we all feel the same love


We are boxed in and labeled
Before we’re ever able to speak who we believe we are
Or who we dream we’ll become
Like drum beats forever changing their rhythm
I am living today as someone I had not yet become yesterday
And tonight I’ll only borrow pieces of who I am today
To carry with me to tomorrow
No, I’m not gay
No, I’m not straight
And I sure as hell am not bisexual
Damn it I am whoever I am when I am it
Loving whoever you are when the stars shine
And whoever you’ll be when the sun rises
So here’s to being able
Here’s to love
Here’s to loving just because
Here’s to acceptance
Here’s to never fearing the fear of rejection
Here’s to love and never neglecting who you feel you are
Here’s to bullies because beatings cannot last forever
Heres’ to the moment you realize things do get better
Here’s to the parents who will get it when its too late
Here’s to second chances
Here’s to new fate
Here’s to every single moment you’ve ever had to hide you
Here’s to the single star shining bright inside you, asking you to guide you
Here’s to who you’ll be when you figure it all out
Here’s to momentary doubt
Here’s to feeling, because we all feel it the same
Here’s to the moment that things will change
Because we all feel love, we all feel it the same
Here’s to love, here’s to change.

 - [x]

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My friend who keeps messing up my pronouns got me this as a way to encourage him to get better at it.




My friend who keeps messing up my pronouns got me this as a way to encourage him to get better at it.


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i made a thing


#thank you for making this friend!!

you’re very welcome friend!


(Context: I identify as bisexual, pansexual, and queer. I use these words in different contexts, for different reasons, and they all describe me. “Bi” and “pan” are about as close as you can get to describing my sexuality, and each of them is still slightly inaccurate.)

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